im blogging today cuz of a realization that someone helped me to have...well two ppl really...who have caused me to look at things differently...who have reminded me what it can actually be like...when there is no fear...
im not too sure what it is in this day and age...that causes us to forget what love is...how love behaves...and what love does...it seems that we've all become so bitter, jaded, & torn...untrusting...allowing past hurts to dictate who, &, or, what we need to be afraid of...
causing us to forget...
love does not bind...or steal...love does not hurt...or grieve...love does not act out in an irrational tempertantrum...nor does it seek to cage...love does not go for the jugular in a fight...love does not get jealous or possesive...love does not cheat...nor does it second guess...love doesn't judge...or taunt...or tame...love does not belittle...love doesn't constrict...or confine to what we feel is safe...love doesn't seek to own...or destroy...nor does it cling...
"love is what love does..."
real love is unconditional...
it is freeing and honest...it allows us to be hurt and feel what we do...without the need to edit out or censor our feelings...because we know that we are loved...& as such will be supported in our emotions...while at the same time being honored for feeling them fully...love is accepting...taking us for who & what we are...even with our "faults"...it is considerate...taking our feelings into account...& treating us with the utmost care...because we deserve that...love is respectful...it recognizes that we are all separate individuals...with different dreams...& aspirations in life...while at the same time...honouring & encouraging the growth of that which we might not even agree with...because love wants nothing more then to see the other happy...sees it as our own responsibility to each other...and as such...acts accordingly...
simply put...love trusts...
that we wont get hurt...& even if we do...that we are strong enough to heal through...& because of it...it trusts that no matter what anyone says or does to us...it is just them reacting to their life...rather then something we should take personally...(*because it is never personal)...it trusts that we can place ourselves within the arms of another...& be embraced...knowing that they dont seek to wound us...or ever could...it trusts that there is no greater replacement that could ever be found for us...or the bond that we share...love trusts that no matter what...it will all be ok.
and thats what i think it all comes down to...being able to let go of our insecurities...allow ourselves to be vunerable...& remember what it is to love in trust & trust in love...because one cannot exist...especially in this day and age...without the other...
so to the newley married couple that helped remind me of what love actually is...i just wanna say thank you...you have given me hope...that it is possible to find someone who wont complete me...but instead....compliment me...exactly as you each do...perfectly as was meant to be...<3
k.s
