she looked at me with her big brown eyes and said “$185″. my heart..sank!
“what?!”, i replied.
earlier this afternoon, i went to the city hall to turn in my signed
fix-it citation and payment. instead of accepting my $10 payment, the
cashier corrected me saying i owe $185 (because of overdue charges).
there was no way around it. i had to pay…and i did.
i left the city hall feeling bitter, for sure. i mean $185 could
have saved 36 starvings kids in africa (well, not really, but you know
what i mean). after 3 minutes, i said to myself “ok, i can choose to be
bitter and let it ruin my day OR i can take this lesson learned (about
procrastinating) and move on!”. so i decided on the latter. instantly,
i felt better.
i’m sharing this story because bitterness and choice applies to many
situations in life, especially after a break-up! at the end of a
relationship, you can be bitter and wallow in it OR accept it, learn
and move on. every person enters your life for a reason and when your
time together is up, appreciate what you shared. don’t let bitterness
taint the good memories and experiences you’ve gained. remember, it’s
always a choice!
well, at least leaving a relationship can leave you with good
memories whereas paid parking tickets just leave you with a lighter
wallet. ha!
how to overcome bitterness after a relationship:
1) don’t take it personal
it’s not you. it’s not him/her. most relationships have an expiration
and it ends when its suppose to. most of the people you’ll date…won’t
be THE ONE.
and along the way, you’ll make mistakes, have great experiences, feel
all the emotions and grow. remember, it’s the journey, not the
destination.
2) it’s not the end of the world!
in fact, it’s just the beginning! there’s plenty of wonderful people
are out there, who you’re going to meet! the experience will get better
and better and richer along the way.
3) be optimistic!
think of the positive things you’ve gained from the relationship and
move on. the faster you move on, the more your heart will open for a
better match and new friends.
4) move on and be civil
after you move on and heal, but sure to loop back later on make sure
you’re on good terms with your ex. trust me, it feels great to be on
neutral or positive terms with your exs.
when was the last time you were bitter? how did you over come it?
