As mentioned so many times, Tantric sex is about getting maximum pleasure form your body for the longest possible time. But even then, it’s not about reaching an orgasm. It’s about sacred union. In Tantra, sexual energy is used for spiritual growth, healing, and yes, enhanced and extended sexual pleasure.

The following tips and exercises are not about curing premature ejaculation. At a man’s best, he can usually probably last a good 45 minutes in bed. But why limit yourself right? As Rock star Sting and his wife previously claimed, they can have up to five or six hours of lovemaking, why not you?

If you think about it, climaxing is actually the result of tension. For instance, because you’re so excited making love to your partner, tension builds up in your pelvis, butt, and/or mind. This then leads to a climax. It’s thus logical to start with the basics to prevent this unnecessary tension. How? By re-training your body on how to RELAX.

Exercise One: Float. This exercise aims to teach you to ‘go back to basics’ and simply tell your body to chill out.

• Find a comfortable and stress-free space and lie down on your back and close your eyes.
• Lie down comfortably. That is, spread your legs a bit and let your arms fall away from your body (palms up).
• Start from the top of your head. Imagine each hair shaft falling on its own accord, away from your head and resting on the pillow. Imagine your eyes relaxing, unknot your brows. Continue imaging each and every part of your body from head-to-toe getting into a state of relaxation.
• Now imagine the weight of your body pressing down into the earth while being entirely supported all around.
• Just let all the tension in your body be washed completely, allowing all your muscles to relax.
• Now relax your mind. Focus on the slow steady natural rhythm of your breathing and nothing else.
• Just float this way for 20 minutes while you witness what your mind and body experience.

Exercise Two: Tighten and Release. This exercise aims to teach you how to ‘control’ your body. That is, when to induce tension on it and when to deliberately relax it. This is important during intercourse because then when you feel tension, you can command your body to relax.

• Assume the Float position.
• Focus your awareness on your toes, tense them tightly for a moment, and then relax them for several breaths.
• Focus your awareness on your feet, tense them tightly for a moment, and then relax them for several breaths.
• Continue doing the same with your lower legs, thighs, genitals, butt, stomach, lower back, chest, upper back, hands, forearms, upper arms, shoulders, neck, and jaw.
• If you feel tension anywhere in your body, repeat the cycle until you feel relaxed all over.
• Take a few moments just breathing gently and feel the complete sense of relaxation sink in deeply.

Exercise Three: Tantric Belly Breathing

Have you noticed that during sex and you’re all really tensed up and you feel like you’re going to explode, your breathing comes in gasps or in short, dragged breaths? This type of breathing goads you to reach your destination (orgasm) faster. So what if you can command yourself to breathe more evenly? Surely, that would relax your body and prevent climaxing, right? Yes!

• Assume the Float position.
• Remain completely still and relax all your muscles, especially your anal and genital muscles. Press your tongue gently against the roof of your mouth. This will keep your jaw relaxed.
• Observe how fast you’re breathing and feel how deeply each breath goes.
• Now, open your mouth and breathe rhythmically more deeply and slowly. Imagine that your belly is an empty balloon that fills and empties with each relaxing breath.
• Put your hand on your belly and watch it move in and out as you breathe. If your hand isn't moving, consciously force the air down deeper.
• Now imagine your breath going down into your pelvis, washing, cleansing, and stimulating. As you exhale, imagine it leaving every muscle totally relaxed.

During sex, just when you feel that the sexual tension is going just a bit too far, start Tantric breathing deliberately. Again, imaging each muscle relax as you exhale. This will prolong your orgasm and make you enjoy sex for hours to come!