I remember when I was watching the Spider man movie andthinking what the hell is this guys problem. This dude has super powers canswing from buildings, fight villains and save peoples lives but when it comesto talking to a girl he’s a punk. He freezes up every time when he is about totalk to Mary Jane. He gets nervous around her. I was thinking how could someonebe brave enough to do these heroic things and at the same time be scared totalk to a girl.

A lot of people have Spider Man Syndrome (SMS). So what isSMS? Spider Man Syndrome can be described as being competent and confident inevery other situation in your life except dating. For example you might be askilled chef, a dentist, doctor, or teacher and know how to do your job verywell. These same people may know how to play sports or have some interestingtalent like doing magic tricks. They are confident that they can performcertain tasks because they are competent in their specific field or talent. Ateacher understands how to teach her students and is confident that he/she canmake her students learn. A doctor understands medicine so he/she is confidentthat they can heal their patients. Their confidence is born out of theircompetence. What this means is people feel confident when they know how to dowhatever it is they are doing.

What most people do is make the assumption that if someoneis competent in many areas of their life that automatically means that theyshould have an easier time in their love life. They assume that they can getanyone or that anybody would love to be with this person just because they haveso many other aspects of their life on point. So for example if there is a guywho was smart, athletic, and has a good job most people would assume that thisguy would have no problem getting women. You see this guy at work every daydoing a great job, he also plays basketball on the weekend and can score onanyone, and he is intelligent. He does all of these great things but for somereason he just can’t get a date.

This guy has the Spider Man Syndrome. He doesn’t know how tocommunicate with women. What most people don’t understand is this guy beingcompetent in all these other aspects of his life have nothing to do with himbeing competent with approaching and talking to women. It’s two totallydifferent things. Most people will look at the image of this guy and assumethat since he is so great in these other aspects of his life then his datinglife must be going well. You would look at a guy like this and think “he musthave dates all the time” or some women might look at him and assume that he hasa girlfriend.

The problem that this guy has is the same problem thatspider man has. They both can do all these great things but when it comes towomen they aren’t confident. They aren’t confident because they aren’tcompetent when it comes to interacting with women. What this basically means isTHEY DON’T KNOW HOW TO ATTRACT WOMEN.

Women also have the SMS. There are some women with greatcareers who are very talented, attractive and can attract a man. The problem ismost of these women don’t know how to keep a man. These women are doing greatin almost every other area in their life except for their love life.

People are attracted to confidence. When you are competentyou are confident. So when you know how to attract people you are moreconfident in yourself. Those people who you attract are attracted to youbecause of your confidence. You gained that confidence in yourself because youknew what you were doing. Take some time and learn how to attract people.Spiderman can save the day and eventually at some point he was competent enoughto save his love life. I hope you will too.

Mr. Locario

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